The antidote to awkward cancer support

Image is of a stick figure that appears to be crying and another giving the first one a hug. Next to them are the words Cancer Conversation SOS

Discover tools and insights to turn good intentions into good connections. Empower yourself to support loved ones with compassion and confidence.

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Cancer touches between 1.5 and 2 million new lives in the US each year—and ripples out to countless friends, family members, and colleagues who want to help but don’t know how.

At Cancer Conversation SOS, we turn those awkward “what do I say?” moments into meaningful connections. Because supporting someone through cancer doesn’t need to feel like navigating a minefield.

Our Tools for Better Conversations

The Workshop

The answer to: how do I practice these skills when it’s not high stakes?

A four-hour, hands-on workshop where you learn the skills, then practice them—because the only way to get better is to practice.

Available in online and in-person formats, the workshop can be done in your space with your people, or you can buy a ticket to a scheduled public event.

Image is of the journal that comes with the workshop. It says Cancer Conversation SOS, your words can help. Under that, there's a drawing of a stick person crying and another giving the first a hug. Under that it says, "A workshop facilitated by Heat Dziczek, founder of How Not to Say, Creator of The Cancer Cards"

The Talk

The answer to: how do I get a deeper understanding of the hidden dynamics between patients and the people around them?

A candid, humor-laced journey through the good, the bad, and the “oh honey, no” of supporting someone with cancer. Real stories, practical strategies, and zero sugarcoating

photo by Emily Wells-Bejarano

The Card Deck

Twenty real-life scenarios illustrated with practical, compassionate alternatives to common fumbles, as well as suggestions for practical, tangible ways to help.

Available in physical and digital formats, because sometimes we all need a lifeline in our pocket.

Lost for words?
try The Cancer Cards
(physical and digital editions)

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Letters Without Armor

Discover a weekly Q&A on Substack, addressing how to manage difficult conversations. Submit your own question or just learn from others’. Free and paid tiers available.

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